tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post3062675567061540232..comments2023-04-27T04:30:57.162-07:00Comments on single-minded-endeavours: relationship fallacies part one: it's too hardsusanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04240548697797268944noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-79312999478152222682012-05-15T20:50:14.402-07:002012-05-15T20:50:14.402-07:00i absolutely agree about having those rules/bounda...i absolutely agree about having those rules/boundaries/deal breakers. And eliminating in the first instance certainly can reduce the pain-risk element. And selective at the start sure makes sense.<br />What I meant really though was that (assuming the person meets all the criteria you have set, or at least doesn't negate any of the deal breakers), surely we have to be brave enough to GET ON with it. there will always be other things that come up especially as we get older and have more ''stuff''. its often just a measure of having to feel the fear and do it anyway.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240548697797268944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-12250290352421419112012-05-15T08:57:30.941-07:002012-05-15T08:57:30.941-07:00I think your take on this is idealistic. For inst...I think your take on this is idealistic. For instance, I won't date a man who is not yet divorced, or a man with children younger than teens (the ages of my kids), or a man who lives longer than an hour away. All of these I learned through experience. By eliminating these obstacles immediately, I'm eliminating beginning something that will only end up badly, because it is not what I really want. For me, it's about being more selective, a process I'm learning right now as I begin a search for a new, happier relationship with the right man.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com