tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.comments2023-04-27T04:30:57.162-07:00single-minded-endeavourssusanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04240548697797268944noreply@blogger.comBlogger90125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-45701322153450332362021-11-07T16:42:11.390-08:002021-11-07T16:42:11.390-08:00Yes!! On point in your assessment. Dating sites/S...Yes!! On point in your assessment. Dating sites/Singles sites are ridiculous!!Yvonnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08038918668619367960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-20312037546638953502020-06-04T14:27:23.443-07:002020-06-04T14:27:23.443-07:00If you have to say you're a sapiosexual, then ...If you have to say you're a sapiosexual, then you are not a sapiosexual, and are, in fact, a massive plonker who is trying to sound clever, but you're making yourself look like a complete twat.<br /><br />In a recent Tinder blog post an author wrote:<br /><br />There are two types of sapiosexuals: people who are attracted to a person’s intellect and people who call themselves sapiosexuals because they found out about a new, cool label that would make them profound. According to research, if you’re in the latter camp, you actually aren’t sapiosexual at all — you’re just arrogant. Hetero people claiming a sexual identity to reveal that they aren’t superficial is bougie to a cringe-worthy degree. You don’t need your own label to be unique — just be you. And on behalf of all of us wearing labels we didn’t choose, we beg you: Please remove this from all your dating profiles.<br /><br />FYI:<br />Bougie: <br />People pretending to (or think they are) high class and but they're really not (or don't realise they aren't.)Paulnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-2150493549986176722015-10-17T11:09:20.167-07:002015-10-17T11:09:20.167-07:00I am SO GLAD you wrote this. It’s exactly what I t...I am SO GLAD you wrote this. It’s exactly what I think every time I read that frickin quote. Stupidity! People don’t even know what they mean when they’re saying it, it’s just something they’ve heard sometime and think sounds smart and clever. BLAHHH. I mean, I have serious problems with myself. That hasn’t stopped me from being in sound supporting relationships, giving them my all and ending most of those relationships on a friendly note. Wynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17777296189839013346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-17272629857268014682015-08-18T22:23:55.580-07:002015-08-18T22:23:55.580-07:00thanks:)thanks:)susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240548697797268944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-25395836024608545382015-08-18T16:44:33.467-07:002015-08-18T16:44:33.467-07:00Wow. I have waited for a long time for someone els...Wow. I have waited for a long time for someone else to think the same way I do about "loving yourself" --- Great line "I think to feel lovable, and to be love-able, is a result of loving others." I often think that while loving ourselves, feeling "content" with who we are is healthy for us, it doesn't necessarily guarantee that we will be happy and peachy all of the time or any time, really. Love encompasses our entire being so yes, I totally would high five you on this post!Yvonnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08038918668619367960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-53548667727685375762014-11-12T21:02:24.959-08:002014-11-12T21:02:24.959-08:00It certainly gives room for thought. Those type o...It certainly gives room for thought. Those type of friendships are few and far between but are the most treasured. It would be amazing to experience the same type of excitement with our spouse/bf/gf/family, etc. I think it would make for stronger relationships and give us an inner peace that we don't have normally.Yvonnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08038918668619367960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-61456608302685634992014-09-10T16:06:26.416-07:002014-09-10T16:06:26.416-07:00A year on and they have worked it out. Stoked I am...A year on and they have worked it out. Stoked I am. Stoked.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240548697797268944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-55687925005199550422014-08-28T14:28:42.116-07:002014-08-28T14:28:42.116-07:00I always thought you are one of the most beautiful...I always thought you are one of the most beautiful woman I met. You have very sparkly friendly eyes, you always always look very classy, you carry a certain sense of authority around and you smile a lot :o) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-33416357369833799882014-07-08T08:14:15.880-07:002014-07-08T08:14:15.880-07:00Hi Susan! I'm Heather and I wanted to know if ...Hi Susan! I'm Heather and I wanted to know if you would be willing to answer a question I have about your blog! If you could email me at Lifesabanquet1(at)gmail(dot)com that would be great!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04104895709983001125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-54715606071668690072013-10-03T21:40:32.601-07:002013-10-03T21:40:32.601-07:00I think having a significant other is the differen...I think having a significant other is the difference between thinking you're worth loving and knowing it.LBnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-14329420900909019682013-09-12T02:44:30.941-07:002013-09-12T02:44:30.941-07:00For my long time readers - I'm pleased to repo...For my long time readers - I'm pleased to report I bumped into this friend last week, and another year on, despite a major hiccup and a few minor bouts of indigestion, the relationship is continuing well and has ''bedded in'' quite nicely. love that:)susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240548697797268944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-81260137568025203692013-08-26T17:17:55.478-07:002013-08-26T17:17:55.478-07:00redefine the meaning of success?redefine the meaning of success?susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240548697797268944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-67911763022750592812013-08-26T17:17:40.864-07:002013-08-26T17:17:40.864-07:00thanksthankssusanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240548697797268944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-14591161550712437452013-08-09T19:35:55.830-07:002013-08-09T19:35:55.830-07:00Tell me about it! How can I guide my kids to a suc...Tell me about it! How can I guide my kids to a successful life, when the secret eludes me after all these years?Simon Woodwardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05627143284919115696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-64486833360309092912013-08-09T02:48:33.976-07:002013-08-09T02:48:33.976-07:00good work susan!!good work susan!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-7994836334312864972013-07-07T18:13:48.013-07:002013-07-07T18:13:48.013-07:0050 years makes you more than qualified! thanks for...50 years makes you more than qualified! thanks for stopping by:)susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240548697797268944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-74122876517512438962013-07-07T13:32:18.989-07:002013-07-07T13:32:18.989-07:00Thank you, susan, for leaving a comment on my blog...Thank you, susan, for leaving a comment on my blog today. I always visit the blogs of my readers who have blogs, so here I am. I see that you do not blog extremely often, but that you do blog extremely well. My compliments, with the sole criticism that I have been scarred forever by that very comprehensive Terms of Endearment list. I also see that you are more a wordsmith than an inserter of photographs, and my hat is off to you a second time.<br /><br />Now to respond to -- I do not say answer -- your question. As of three days before the date of your post, I had been marrried to Mrs. RWP for fifty years -- Selah (Pause and let that sink in) -- so I am extremely unqualified to leave a response. Being me, however, I will anyway. I do agree that human beings are not designed to be alone. But there can be such a thing as too much togetherness too. I have learned the secrets -- there are two -- to a long marriage. They're very simple. Don't die and don't leave. But a <i>happy</i> relationship, now that takes a great deal of work, and even for the best of couples it sometimes doesn't feel worth it. The key, I think, is this: Always be open to compromise with others, but never compromise with yourself. I'm not sure I even know what that means, except that you must remain true to who you are in the very core of your being. Some things are just too precious and life is too short to do otherwise. Your friends will understand, and the ones who don't are not your friends.rhymeswithplaguehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10870439618129001633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-31640443883074561502012-11-22T16:49:29.023-08:002012-11-22T16:49:29.023-08:00yes absolutely and certainly most of the women I k...yes absolutely and certainly most of the women I know are keenly aware of this. I guess many use the justification of coupledom as a way to involve children at an early stage? And I have done this myself with very negative outcome.<br />This time it's rather different - yes they've met, but always in ''public well lit places'' and only a handful of times in the last few months. Baby steps and eyes wide open. This has also freed me up to enjoy getting to know someone without the added pressure of what to tell the children.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240548697797268944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-25951251928748227262012-11-22T16:17:11.410-08:002012-11-22T16:17:11.410-08:00When you review the statistics of child abuse (phy...When you review the statistics of child abuse (physical and sexual) the highest proportion of offenders is usually new partners/step parents.<br />Some people are so desperate to get to the (as you call it) "performing stage", they allow the earlier stages to fly by quickly and in doing so do not actually get to know each other well enough at all. They may have niggles about the other parties behaviour but they push these aside as they so long for the happy outcome of coupledom. "He can be a bit quick tempered, but oh well, he is having to deal with three kids that aren't his etc" or "My daughter doesn't seem to like him much, but he is so keen to help out with her, sure I will let him take her hiking."<br />I find it facinating that most people would never pick up a hitch-hiker for fear of what they will do in the car to them, yet people will date strangers and then intertwine them in their lives, expose their children to them etc with no concerns at all.<br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-37752429251971925812012-08-18T02:57:28.305-07:002012-08-18T02:57:28.305-07:00An impressive post, I just gave this to a colleagu...An impressive post, I just gave this to a colleague who is doing a little analysis on this topic. And he is very happy and thanking me for finding it. But all thanks to you for writing in such simple words. Big thumb up for this blog post!<br /><a href="http://www.violetblues.com/dating-advice" rel="nofollow">Dating Advice</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07879690404421986551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-38336058539300405422012-07-05T02:04:09.971-07:002012-07-05T02:04:09.971-07:00Ah....tumescence :-) Wonderful word!Ah....tumescence :-) Wonderful word!JoGillespiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07704445315708621473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-59219409471632168392012-07-05T02:02:55.388-07:002012-07-05T02:02:55.388-07:00I'm glad you mention that a good friend can do...I'm glad you mention that a good friend can do this for us, as well. It doesn't have to be a romantic relationship, for certain people just to bring out the best in each other. :-)JoGillespiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07704445315708621473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-55762926999082203282012-07-01T01:41:08.241-07:002012-07-01T01:41:08.241-07:00thanks:). actually there are gazillions of blogs w...thanks:). actually there are gazillions of blogs written by single/sole women (and men) <br />but all have a different perspective. and as far as I know I'm the only one from this part of the world.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240548697797268944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-53689050126888072222012-06-29T07:05:34.693-07:002012-06-29T07:05:34.693-07:00I have female friends that are as forthcoming with...I have female friends that are as forthcoming with the female perspective of coupledom, but to see it in writing on the Internet is a whole other ball game.<br /><br />It's refreshing.<br />Brave.<br />Risky.<br />I love it !Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01846134764965320452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075164420675128690.post-11698651501784208032012-06-13T14:50:47.675-07:002012-06-13T14:50:47.675-07:00Yes I agree Cheryl, a hard lesson to learn but the...Yes I agree Cheryl, a hard lesson to learn but there it is. and I think the second or third time around even more important.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240548697797268944noreply@blogger.com