Monday, 2 April 2012

the sound of hearts breaking

Surely the hardest thing about re partnering is wondering if ''this time'' it's going to work out.

Oftentimes the uncoupled like to talk of how they don't believe in happy-ever-afters any more, or that they think people aren't really made to be together for ever - but I think deep down, we all want to believe that's not true.  We want to meet a soul mate, to fall in love and to grow old on the porch with someone.

And of course the horrible reality is that after the first breakup - especially if the relationship was of significant length - the subsequent ones are more common, more likely and more frequent.  How's that for a depressing thought.

And today's blog is not a happy one.  Because I have learned of some more friends who are now going through the pain of separation.

It's easy to offer platitudes isn't it?  Better luck next time.  It's a lesson learned.  There's a reason for this.  He wasn't right for you.  You deserve more/better/different.

But at the end of the day, it's just people hurting.  Which is how this blog started in the first place.


  1. I think the worst part of re-coupling after divorce is it almost seems easier to walk away since you've been through a divorce. Prior to my divorce it was the not knowing if I would survive the divorce that kept me in a bad marriage for too long. Now, knowing I survived a breakup and divorce almost makes it easier to think about walking away. It's like the pendulum has swung to the other side. Which I think is equally bad.

  2. there was an article on Huff post about this just this week. maybe we become older, wiser, more cynical and less likely to engage. good or bad, hard to say.