Saturday, 19 May 2012

HJNTIY - the revised version

So, you went out on an awesome date?
And then another? Maybe another, and yet another planned for ''soon''
You spent hours skyping/texting/messaging inbetween, before and since?


Has he actually picked up the phone and called you?
Has he indicated that he is available to see you more (rather than less).

sorry, Hes Just Not That Into You.

I wrote this blog earlier today, and with the advantage of hindsight decided I sounded all a bit bitter and twisted - not my intention at all, but it has become very apparent to me, having spent (way) too much time lurking on other single-people blogs, dating websites and the like (market research obviously.....), that for all the great advice being handed out, the '10 ways to get him to ask you out again'' type articles, the spirited discussion boards that disect every nuance of human behaviour and how it relates to men and women, that actually in many ways this is
a. a numbers game
b. a hugely steep learning curve for those of us re-entering the world of dating, and
c. something we all put way too much energy and stress in to, because, at the end of the day

If you like him, and he. likes. you. He'll call you.


  1. You hit the proverbial nail on the head. That's always been my way of thinking, and my advice to other single women: Don't call him. If he likes you, he'll call you. Men like the chase. So let him.

  2. I agree that it is the male role to do the ''chase''. The thing I find continually frustration and disappointing is that once you've been caught, there's no more effort - so far. I am astounded at the lengths men go to - the time they put in and so on, to get your attention and ''catch you'' and then the minute you're on the hook they let go of the line.