Don't you love how this is advice is nearly always handed out by the coupled? They say ''if you stop looking you'll meet someone great".
Well that's terrific advice. THANK you coupled people for sharing your wisdom:(
I nod and smile each time I hear it, and wonder if they met their someone great by not looking?
Why do people say that? And why is the assumption made that all single people are trying to hunt down a new partner? It stands to reason, doesn't it, that if you're single and you're friends are too, that there's a chance that some of them will couple up? And it's logical that single people are probably not going to make a habit of just hanging out with couples - even if they are happily single.
I meet a lot of single people in my work and social life. Some of whom are open to meeting a partner and some who are not. Some I am interested in getting to know better, some I am not. Some who seem to be interested in me, and most who don't. (usually the ones who like me are in the category of ones I'm not excited about getting to know better but that's another story...).
Does that mean I am looking? Well, only by default. I am not actively dating. I'm not on any online dating sites. I'm not handing out my relationship CV for appraisal. Sure, I'm open to the idea of meeting potential partners, but I'm putting my energy right now into making new friends.
Maybe if it's the right person I might be keen on seeing where that may lead. But I am not analysing every single man that crosses my path that's for sure. I figure that means I'm not really looking.