Dating a Sapiophile - intelligence is hot

Dating profiles - blurghh - just the word dating gives me a bit of a stomach ache - are at best just a list of all the marvelous qualities one thing one has, and a wishlist of what we want, but ultimately have no bearing on whether you'll actually click with someone in person.  In true Pollyanna style, I read through them, ever hopeful of finding something interesting....and that was how I saw this word: SAPIOPHILE.   Well... there's a word you don't see on a dating site every day (in fact I don't think I've ever seen it before). And since my own profile includes the statements 'you're looking for someone to share the minutiae of life with' and 'you use words like minutiae', I just had to go there. Oh yes, I did.

A sapiosexual or sapiophile is someone that is turned on by smart people. Sapiosexuals are literally aroused by intelligence. These people can have a tremendous intellectual conversation about anything random or unexpected things.  

The word sapiophile comes from the Latin  “sapient” meaning “wise” and the Greek suffix “phile” means “lover of”). So, a sapiophile is someone who finds intelligence the most attractive feature and is also romantically/sexually attracted to intelligence in other people. To these people, smart people with a great sense of humor are far more attractive than those with outstanding physical appearance. Some sapiosexuals are more into wise, intellectual conversations spiced up with a great sense of humor, while others connect most with emotional intelligence. 

How can you tell if someone is Sapiosexual? 

• A sapiophile loves owning their own library. This is how they get to build their vocabulary and thought processes. 
• They enjoy long, intimate, and eye-opening conversations. Small talk does not work with these people. 
• They have a photographic memory. You will be able to remember everything they said and that is very important to them because they will also do the same.  
• They love debating. You can be sure that the sapiophile will be all over you during a debate or discussion that requires an intelligent thought process.  Sapiophiles cannot help themselves from admiring those who are not afraid to speak their minds. 
• They are extremely curious. The idea of you sitting up all night, researching about a certain topic makes you very attractive to them since this is probably what they would do.  
• They love education.  It may not be a deal-breaker when someone is confident in their own intelligence but sapiophiles tend to love someone that is educated by their side. 
• People with open minds. Sapiophiles are very good when it comes to having their own opinion but are also ready to listen to your theories and respond positively. They know their limitations and would own up to not having all the answers.
• Sapiophiles are confident and will be attracted to others like them. They are the bold women or men that are never ashamed to embrace their interests, wants, and needs. They will also be clear about being attracted to an amazing brain rather than to physique. 
• They are obsessed with correct spelling. Spelling mistakes are a turn off for every sapiophile.  
• They reveal their weird interests easily. They love to hear about what fascinates others, just as they would be willing to share about their own fascinations. 
• Using conversations as foreplay. Beyond the wine and candles, you'll need to work on her or his mind if you want things to progress further. 
• A sapiophile is attracted to uniqueness. They are more about finding that which stands out as opposed to that which fits in. 
• The heart is just as important as the mind. Sapiophiles will admire your knowledge, but if you lack emotional intelligence, they will consider you cold. 

Well, that makes sense.   

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